“Some see secession. But though secession is unlikely, a secession of the heart has already taken place in America. We are two nations, two peoples seemingly separated indefinitely. Can a nation so divided as ours, racially, ideologically, religiously, still do great things together, as did the America of days gone by, to the amazement of the world?” — Pat Buchanan, 12/11/2020.
I think Pat Buchanan’s opinion there, right or wrong, is responsive to your question. I can only speak of my own “heart,” but it had already reached a point 5 years ago where I was leery of talking to old friends, and moreso to strangers, about current events of any kind, because it would inevitably become political and unpleasant. My leeriness has only increased. Witness the creation of this very board. (Jeff, I realize you didn’t create it purely as an alternative to The Soundhole, but that’s what it is, for me at least.)
Buchanan has been on this “culture war” thing since 1992: “There is a religious war going on in this country. It is a cultural war, as critical to the kind of nation we shall be as the Cold War itself. Buchanan’s secession of the heart language above is an echo of his culture war message of ’92.”
I have “divorced” several people that I once considered friends. It’s not “sad”; we just all of us, I think, reach a point where diminishing returns in a relationship (in this case, our relationship with our political opposites or antagonists) make it not worth the energy to preserve. For me, anyway. My extended family is all conservative, so we don’t have those “difficult Thanksgiving dinners” one reads about that some families experience. Still, I and my wife have essentially seceded. We once loved NYC, for example. We’ll never return there, or to San Fran, as we know when we aren’t welcome. But I am not oiling up my guns. I simply bid Blue America a less than fond adieu.
To Bret Weinstein’s point, I and my wife have “turned inward and isolate(d),” but we have no plans to eliminate an internal subgroup … yet, LOL. The lizard part of my brain, meaning “most of it,” certainly feels that impulse Weinstein describes, but I’m not violent and life is pretty sweet for me and mine, yes, even in the pandemic.
BTW, I didn’t know until this morning that there were all these other threads. I’ve been getting notifications only about posts in the one thread I created.