Friends and politics

Updated on February 5, 2021 in General Stuff
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There are lots of articles about this issue on the internet and everyone here has, I am sure, experienced strained to terminated relationships because of politics.  

The experts say, “Don’t give up on your friends. Be understanding. Talk it out and listen, really listen, to their point of view.”  (I hate it when they say “really listen.”)  But see, here’s the thing: I don’t think it’s a communication problem. It think it’s a clash of values.  

I have lost several friends, and have cooled on others to the point of not wanting to look them up anymore.  They aren’t bad people; hell, they are better than I in many ways.  But the cost-benefit analysis recommends  divorce, or at least a cordial auf Wiedersehen.

What has happened I think is that one side can no longer limit their criticism of our leaders to the leaders themselves, but must extend it to anyone who tolerates the politician’s deficiencies. “You must share the same sympathies and  outlook as Candidate X (otherwise, why vote for him?)  Or you are brainwashed and must be de-programmed.”  That’s just an eyelash away from attributing the candidate’s flaws to me directly.  Even if the friend didn’t completely mean it and took it back, there are some things you just can’t say to another and expect it to be forgotten.  Once said, it’s always there, right under the surface. 

It’s a bummer, but I’m not complaining; some people have entire families that are suffering strain and rupture because of intra-family disagreements on values generally and Trump specifically. And I don’t have that issue.  I suppose it was the same in the 60’s with rich college kids, tuning in and dropping out over Vietnam and the Establishment, while their parents lamented that “We sacrificed everything for you.  How can you hate us and everything we stand for?”

In my memory, the only election in modern times that didn’t not engender relationship-ending hatred was the election of Bill Clinton over GHW Bush.  What the hell has happened?  Is it the immediacy of the internet and the ease with which we can slander people we disagree with?  Or do we have really flawed and hate-able candidates running for office?  I for sure think that our most talented and capable people are in industry, science and business.    

 
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“Indeed, experts said it’s more conversation — not less — that’s needed, if the nation is to heal its blistering divide. But it has to be healthy, productive conversation.”

https://www.npr.org/2020/10/27/928209548/dude-i-m-done-when-politics-tears-families-and-friendships-apart

Yes, it “has to be healthy, productive conversation.”    But it cannot be;  not now.

 

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We have forgotten so much.

America used to (imperfectly, to be sure) pay homage to “pluralism”. That morphed, perniciously, into “multi-culturalism”.

Now we’re at a place where high officials are openly talking about re-education camps.

Every day that goes by makes me more grateful for the Second Amendment.

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Have I mentioned the I live in a Second Amendment Sanctuary?

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