The first sentence of your post reminds me of Fisher Ames, my favorite founding father and a member of the long-defunct Federalist Party:
“Our country is too big for union, too sordid for patriotism, too democratic for liberty.”
Ever the elitist, Ames was debating someone who claimed that “All men are created equal!”
To which Ames responded, “But differ greatly in the sequel.”
As to the rest, all of my friends disagree with me, so there’s that. Good answers. though.